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I'm that guy that just wants to play.
I don't care about Elo.
I don't care about kill score.
I REALLY don't care about jungling.
I don't care about buying wards as my responsibility.
I don't care about dedicating to a single champion.
What I do care about, is respect.
In the 1-20 level range, I noticed a high population of people who used a lot of sarcasm, insults, and threats to communicate with their fellow players. This isn't kosher. This kind of attitude is all over the internet, and as of the last few years it's been bleeding into the real world.
People are forgetting how to be polite and respectful to each other. A little respect will go a long way. Many individuals have seemed to adopted a policy of "show me respect and I show it to you." Why did we let this become a social norm?
How do you expect people to want to play with you if you sit there insulting them all the time? Sure, I'll admit that some of those people with the rude social qualities are good at the game. While I think most are trying to compensate for their own mistakes by making everyone else look bad, some have skill and are just being rude. Skill doesn't overshadow respect. Just because you're good doesn't mean you can make everyone else feel bad.
The worst offense I've experienced was when I first joined League of Legends a year or two ago. I was already skeptical on whether or not I would enjoy the game, as I'm not really comfortable in a Player-versus-Player environment. However, I enjoyed DoTA, and decided to give it a shot. Several matches in, each one a loss, I was starting to feel drained of my experience. I decided to play one more (which resulted in another loss).
At the end of that final game, as we were looking at the final statistics page, one player from the opposing team spoke up, "vinta clavert y u suck" "vinta makes his team bad" "u make ur team hate you."
I was shocked. What had I done to deserve the attention of this anonymous user? His team had won, but he decided to add some insult to injury. I was very upset. Because of this one individual deciding to be disrespectful to a new player on the opposing team, I quit. I uninstalled the client and didn't look back.
It wasn't until I found out a few months ago that my local friends were playing League of Legends that I decided to return. At first I was hesitant, "I don't want to play with the community, they've been nothing but jerks," but they assured to me they only played Co-Op versus AI and custom matches against bots.
Playing with my friends sparked an interest in this game for me. Suddenly I started to memorize champions, learn abilities and when to look out for ganks, and I started to remember what the items in the game do. To add to it, I was gaining summoner levels!
On this day, I'm summoner level 22, now with many runes to enhance my play-style and have even submit nearly $100 to Riot Inc. for champions (and even one skin for my lovely rat, Twtich) within this three-or-four month period.
Why all of this sudden burst of fun and rise in skill? Because my friends don't insult me every time I die. They don't use sarcasm when they praise me. In friend versus friend matches on Twisted Treeline and Proving Grounds, they don't tell me I'm a huge problem (or that I suck) when my team loses. They show respect.
Now sure, there is a such thing as playful banter, but they never mean it seriously. It also helps that I'm around them, and can hear the voice inflections in their jokes.
That is one part of the issue when it comes to why you can't be sarcastic toward each other or use personal jokes in the text chat. You can't imply that it's a joke with text, especially if you lack the know-how of putting voice in your writing.
Thankfully, I can say the insults and jokes become less common in the 20-30 summoner level range. I'm starting to branch out into the Player-versus-Player world again, and people at this range seem to show a little bit more kindness. It's not completely eliminated (and may, in fact, become worse due to the sense of elitism or entitlement people may get from being level 30), but a sense of compassion and understanding exists among these players.
All in all (I'm bad at conclusions, give me a break), my main concern is a little respect goes a long way. The next time you feel like telling a new player he sucks, think about how you felt when you started the game. People might actually feel more encouraged to play competitively if we just stop treating each other like lower life forms.
I don't care about Elo.
I don't care about kill score.
I REALLY don't care about jungling.
I don't care about buying wards as my responsibility.
I don't care about dedicating to a single champion.
What I do care about, is respect.
In the 1-20 level range, I noticed a high population of people who used a lot of sarcasm, insults, and threats to communicate with their fellow players. This isn't kosher. This kind of attitude is all over the internet, and as of the last few years it's been bleeding into the real world.
People are forgetting how to be polite and respectful to each other. A little respect will go a long way. Many individuals have seemed to adopted a policy of "show me respect and I show it to you." Why did we let this become a social norm?
How do you expect people to want to play with you if you sit there insulting them all the time? Sure, I'll admit that some of those people with the rude social qualities are good at the game. While I think most are trying to compensate for their own mistakes by making everyone else look bad, some have skill and are just being rude. Skill doesn't overshadow respect. Just because you're good doesn't mean you can make everyone else feel bad.
The worst offense I've experienced was when I first joined League of Legends a year or two ago. I was already skeptical on whether or not I would enjoy the game, as I'm not really comfortable in a Player-versus-Player environment. However, I enjoyed DoTA, and decided to give it a shot. Several matches in, each one a loss, I was starting to feel drained of my experience. I decided to play one more (which resulted in another loss).
At the end of that final game, as we were looking at the final statistics page, one player from the opposing team spoke up, "vinta clavert y u suck" "vinta makes his team bad" "u make ur team hate you."
I was shocked. What had I done to deserve the attention of this anonymous user? His team had won, but he decided to add some insult to injury. I was very upset. Because of this one individual deciding to be disrespectful to a new player on the opposing team, I quit. I uninstalled the client and didn't look back.
It wasn't until I found out a few months ago that my local friends were playing League of Legends that I decided to return. At first I was hesitant, "I don't want to play with the community, they've been nothing but jerks," but they assured to me they only played Co-Op versus AI and custom matches against bots.
Playing with my friends sparked an interest in this game for me. Suddenly I started to memorize champions, learn abilities and when to look out for ganks, and I started to remember what the items in the game do. To add to it, I was gaining summoner levels!
On this day, I'm summoner level 22, now with many runes to enhance my play-style and have even submit nearly $100 to Riot Inc. for champions (and even one skin for my lovely rat, Twtich) within this three-or-four month period.
Why all of this sudden burst of fun and rise in skill? Because my friends don't insult me every time I die. They don't use sarcasm when they praise me. In friend versus friend matches on Twisted Treeline and Proving Grounds, they don't tell me I'm a huge problem (or that I suck) when my team loses. They show respect.
Now sure, there is a such thing as playful banter, but they never mean it seriously. It also helps that I'm around them, and can hear the voice inflections in their jokes.
That is one part of the issue when it comes to why you can't be sarcastic toward each other or use personal jokes in the text chat. You can't imply that it's a joke with text, especially if you lack the know-how of putting voice in your writing.
Thankfully, I can say the insults and jokes become less common in the 20-30 summoner level range. I'm starting to branch out into the Player-versus-Player world again, and people at this range seem to show a little bit more kindness. It's not completely eliminated (and may, in fact, become worse due to the sense of elitism or entitlement people may get from being level 30), but a sense of compassion and understanding exists among these players.
All in all (I'm bad at conclusions, give me a break), my main concern is a little respect goes a long way. The next time you feel like telling a new player he sucks, think about how you felt when you started the game. People might actually feel more encouraged to play competitively if we just stop treating each other like lower life forms.
If I was to use kk over k they'd have to run cold water over the burn!
Tbh I just go k. Like there's nothing more they can say if you just flat out agree with what they said =^.^=
The power of "k" or even the arguably more powerful "kk" is not to be underestimated against flamers & trolls
http://www.mobafire.com/league-of-legends/forum/just-for-fun
http://www.mobafire.com/league-of-legends/forum/constructive-criticism
A lot of players like you are on Mobafire though, so I would suggest joining some Inhouses for fun! The community here is really great, mostly unlike the rest of the community in League xp
I kind of have my own code there. I never insult anyone and I just don't write much. If they want to flame me, let them have their way. And when I do want to say something I only say things that are so nice and friendly that it would make them puke.
Sometimes I really wonder why so many people can't talk with each other normally, most of them must be people who lead a normal socialized life just like you and me.
But then again, I've seen my own friends who are really nice irl turning into flamers in game. This flaming attitude has a snowball effect, kinda. Everyone does it so no one feels bad for it. :(
I'm not a sociologist or psychologist or anything but I think people feel comfortable being rude to each other because you're completely anonymous in this game. Dunno how to fix that, though.
My recent method has just been to tell them off.
"That isn't very nice, let's just play."
"Let's not insult each other, we're all doing our best."
I find that they still make negative comments, but when you show a little bit of a positive force, the neutral parties on your team end up trying to talk down the rude individuals as well.
Can't disagree with that ^^ I just hope you don't let the negative peeps dissuade you from playing the game. Need all the balanced people possible in the community
"That isn't very nice, let's just play."
"Let's not insult each other, we're all doing our best."
I find that they still make negative comments, but when you show a little bit of a positive force, the neutral parties on your team end up trying to talk down the rude individuals as well.
Can't say I didn't have a similar experience myself, except that my 1-30 was pretty much all co-op vs AI (Learnt long ago the horrors of entering PvP environments as a "newb") All the game was for me and my pals (oh right - Worked in IT at the time, myself and 2 work mates hit 1-30 during lunch breaks and erm... *cough* occasionally when workflow was pretty quiet ;)
If you're not teaming up with someone so incompetent themselves, that they blame you for every conceivable little slip up (Their mistakes as well your own btw) then you have someone with very poor communication skills telling you to "un1n54LL teh gaem, kid") But hey you know what - if the negative peeps out there want to be lil' slugger Trundles - let them. Because you know what really blindsides a Trundle? A kiss ^^ and a bit of love - Ever wonder why Bugs Bunny always kissed that Hunter dude in the cartoons? He's the ultimate anti-troll.
But anyway getting back to the point - Haters gonna hate, Trundles gonna troll. Best action is not to react at all in the chat. Give 'em and appropriate report if you really think they were that bad, or give them a big chunk of affection to **** up their heads if you really want to jump into the chatlog. So that while your your there prancing off into the next solo queue, they scratch their heads and perhaps a bit of positivity filters through, who knows?