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Greetings and Salutations everyone and welcome to my new blog
I would like to start off with a story,
Recently I played a ranked game and from the moment it started in the ban selection I wish I had hit close and left because I could tell that I was in a team that was destined to lose.
Firstly the "Team Captain" or first pick and the second pick got into a massive argument because first pick went with
Tryndamere with Smite on so Second pick went with Cho'Gath assuming 1st was to be a Junglar - Turns out this was not the case and Tryndamere wanted Top too
Now I will give Cho,Gath credit he didn't complain to begin with, he changed to a Jungler and you would have assumed that would be the end of it right? WRONG - Tryndamere just continues to flame and flame him throughout the champion select calling him a "Noob" for picking Cho'Gath and was genuinely making it clear we as a team had lost the match before we had finished selecting.
I did my best to ease the situation however what I said fell on deaf ears and it was a great moment when the game started because for the next 2 minutes everyone had a chance to cool down and focus on the game and work as a team...WRONG AGAIN - as soon as the game started Tryndamere and Cho'Gath go right back at it again flaming each other and making the game really uncomfortable.
Now once again I tried to be peacemaker and be a team player so I did what you should do and went to Aid Cho'Gath in his first jungle camp (which was the blue one) and suddenly I start to realise that no one else was bothering to help and in fact our ADC, Ashe was just spamming ping about something and even when I asked for them to come aid us, Ashe just stood there until I had finished helping Cho'Gath.
Now the game was pretty much a disaster, the top lane and jungle continuously flaming and mid lane continuously being ganked by the enemy jungler was making it clear that this was a losing battle to say the least but I kept my cool because to me as a Support my goal was to make sure Ashe was safe and for a while she was...until she too started to flame :/
Firstly Ashe ignored everything I said to her, If she was low on health and I asked her to go back, she ran in and got herself killed and then she would spam ping and started flaming everywhere which got Tryndamere flaming more and he started calling everyone noobs and demanding the other team to report everyone... This was seriously driving my patience but again I was the cool and collected one who tried to bring the team together and to just work together until the end of the match.
I honestly didn't care if they all hated each other, if they wanted to report each other or anything - My one and only goal was to just get the team to refocus and stop flaming long enough to see that there was still a chance to win this game...But then the mid laner, Malzahar just finished it all by giving up mid way through and refused to even try which meant we had two flamers, one who was ignoring and one who had just given up on one team with one solitary player trying his hardest to get the team to work - Me.
By the end of the match any attempts to rally the team was met with abuse and the typical "F**k you" as they just point blank refused to work together which really made me angry - so much so that I took the time to report all 4 members of my team for such unprofessional behavior throughout the game and I will say now I hope they are banned from Ranked until they learn to play properly.
But when that was done I began to wonder why people flame their own team mates so much? I mean surely they are not stupid enough to think if they call their own team mates Noobs that riot will see it and think "This poor kid is in a team with newbies...lets not deduct them LP this game" because that has never worked in the past and will never work in the future either.
Now I know I am Bronze V but I am wise enough to know that if you flame your own team mates you are just begging to lose the game and you do not get awarded for being a flamer in fact you are more likely banned from playing League of Legends for being such a pain in the *** all the time and personally I think their should be a three strike rule especially in Ranked where if you found guilty of flaming and harassment three times you are permanently banned from any more Ranked game for that season at least and if you decide to do it in ARAM or Normal Draft then you could end up being permanently banned from League of Legends all together.
At the end of the day, I think flaming and harassment of your own team mates is one of the most immature things anyone can actually do and even though I know I am not a great player I am serious about playing League and serious about getting better at it but as long as there are these types of playing who are not only unskilled but they actually want to bring the rest of the rest of the team down then there's not much of a chance to progress for players such as myself.
And I am even willing to go this far, If you are reading this blog and you are one of these flamers I speak of - You are an absolute idiot pure and simple but you have a chance to change that by becoming a serious player.
Instead of flaming someone who is being destroyed - think to yourself could you be going to help them? are they at a disadvantage against their opponent? Is the enemy jungler ganking all the time?
Also if you actually have time to flame constantly, why are you not using your energy to give them advice instead? Could you suggest an item that may help them? perhaps you know of a combo to their champion? Stuff like this is far more helpful in a game like this than sitting like a ****** typing "You suck mid lane" "Bot Lane are noobs" "Jungler No Zero" "Top Lane WTF loser".
Anyways I am rambling but seriously, Stop Flaming if you do it because you are ruining League of Legends for everyone who wants to play properly especially if they are playing in a ranked game and if you read this and you still think its cool to be a flamer and to ruin it for everyone because you are unskilled as a summoner then please do this for me right now
- Go to Control Panel
- Select "Uninstall Programs"
- Scroll down until you see "League of Legends"
- Right click it
- Select "Uninstall"
- Go play something else
This is me - Signing off...
I would like to start off with a story,
Recently I played a ranked game and from the moment it started in the ban selection I wish I had hit close and left because I could tell that I was in a team that was destined to lose.
Firstly the "Team Captain" or first pick and the second pick got into a massive argument because first pick went with
Tryndamere with Smite on so Second pick went with Cho'Gath assuming 1st was to be a Junglar - Turns out this was not the case and Tryndamere wanted Top tooNow I will give Cho,Gath credit he didn't complain to begin with, he changed to a Jungler and you would have assumed that would be the end of it right? WRONG -
Tryndamere just continues to flame and flame him throughout the champion select calling him a "Noob" for picking Cho'Gath and was genuinely making it clear we as a team had lost the match before we had finished selecting.I did my best to ease the situation however what I said fell on deaf ears and it was a great moment when the game started because for the next 2 minutes everyone had a chance to cool down and focus on the game and work as a team...WRONG AGAIN - as soon as the game started Tryndamere and Cho'Gath go right back at it again flaming each other and making the game really uncomfortable.
Now once again I tried to be peacemaker and be a team player so I did what you should do and went to Aid
Cho'Gath in his first jungle camp (which was the blue one) and suddenly I start to realise that no one else was bothering to help and in fact our ADC, Ashe was just spamming ping about something and even when I asked for them to come aid us, Ashe just stood there until I had finished helping Cho'Gath.Now the game was pretty much a disaster, the top lane and jungle continuously flaming and mid lane continuously being ganked by the enemy jungler was making it clear that this was a losing battle to say the least but I kept my cool because to me as a Support my goal was to make sure
Ashe was safe and for a while she was...until she too started to flame :/Firstly
Ashe ignored everything I said to her, If she was low on health and I asked her to go back, she ran in and got herself killed and then she would spam ping and started flaming everywhere which got Tryndamere flaming more and he started calling everyone noobs and demanding the other team to report everyone... This was seriously driving my patience but again I was the cool and collected one who tried to bring the team together and to just work together until the end of the match.I honestly didn't care if they all hated each other, if they wanted to report each other or anything - My one and only goal was to just get the team to refocus and stop flaming long enough to see that there was still a chance to win this game...But then the mid laner,
Malzahar just finished it all by giving up mid way through and refused to even try which meant we had two flamers, one who was ignoring and one who had just given up on one team with one solitary player trying his hardest to get the team to work - Me.By the end of the match any attempts to rally the team was met with abuse and the typical "F**k you" as they just point blank refused to work together which really made me angry - so much so that I took the time to report all 4 members of my team for such unprofessional behavior throughout the game and I will say now I hope they are banned from Ranked until they learn to play properly.
But when that was done I began to wonder why people flame their own team mates so much? I mean surely they are not stupid enough to think if they call their own team mates Noobs that riot will see it and think "This poor kid is in a team with newbies...lets not deduct them LP this game" because that has never worked in the past and will never work in the future either.
Now I know I am Bronze V but I am wise enough to know that if you flame your own team mates you are just begging to lose the game and you do not get awarded for being a flamer in fact you are more likely banned from playing League of Legends for being such a pain in the *** all the time and personally I think their should be a three strike rule especially in Ranked where if you found guilty of flaming and harassment three times you are permanently banned from any more Ranked game for that season at least and if you decide to do it in ARAM or Normal Draft then you could end up being permanently banned from League of Legends all together.
At the end of the day, I think flaming and harassment of your own team mates is one of the most immature things anyone can actually do and even though I know I am not a great player I am serious about playing League and serious about getting better at it but as long as there are these types of playing who are not only unskilled but they actually want to bring the rest of the rest of the team down then there's not much of a chance to progress for players such as myself.
And I am even willing to go this far, If you are reading this blog and you are one of these flamers I speak of - You are an absolute idiot pure and simple but you have a chance to change that by becoming a serious player.
Instead of flaming someone who is being destroyed - think to yourself could you be going to help them? are they at a disadvantage against their opponent? Is the enemy jungler ganking all the time?
Also if you actually have time to flame constantly, why are you not using your energy to give them advice instead? Could you suggest an item that may help them? perhaps you know of a combo to their champion? Stuff like this is far more helpful in a game like this than sitting like a ****** typing "You suck mid lane" "Bot Lane are noobs" "Jungler No Zero" "Top Lane WTF loser".
Anyways I am rambling but seriously, Stop Flaming if you do it because you are ruining League of Legends for everyone who wants to play properly especially if they are playing in a ranked game and if you read this and you still think its cool to be a flamer and to ruin it for everyone because you are unskilled as a summoner then please do this for me right now
- Go to Control Panel
- Select "Uninstall Programs"
- Scroll down until you see "League of Legends"
- Right click it
- Select "Uninstall"
- Go play something else
This is me - Signing off...
Honestly you're probably not going to be able to reason with them if you're the one they're raging at, however if you're not keep your mind open to the fact that the rager is negatively affecting everyone on the team, and if he seems to see you as respectable it is probably up to you to tell him to stop raging. Honestly the best way to stop ragers is to nip it in the bud when they first start raging, before they go full
"Guys please stop raging, it doesn't help anything." and non-antagonistic phrases like that are the best way to deal with it. If that fails, well, there's a mute button for a reason.
Idk Vyn, if you tell your team to mute someone it feels like you're all ganging up on him; he'll just get more mad or he'll RQ.
Even so, it is better to have the 4 not distracted rather than everyone distracted in a flamewar - that amounts to basically 5 people not in the game. There's usually no reasoning with toxic individuals in-game, which is the saddest part of it all.
In this sense, I can understand and relate to the people who start to flame for these reasons - the game matters to you, which is perfectly understandable. At the basic level, it's just the frustration of having no control over the environment.
On the other hand, it's just people with issues that are transferred into a game and then amplified - I think I can term it somewhat maladaptive behaviour (though this is not inclusive of ALL the circumstances, I just think most of it). This is when people behave in a way that's coping with their emotions, but coping with it in an inappropriate way, like smoking, alcohol, verbal abuse and so on. This lets them cope with negative emotions, but in a way that does not address the negative emotions directly, letting them lie there. Applying it to the LoL world, for most people, the climb to higher rankings isn't THAT important. A good number of us never aspire to make something out of our gaming; to us it's just a game. So why is it that people start becoming so toxic and inflammable to each other?
I would believe that, for the most part, something in the game provokes negative emotion(s) that tends to be found in real life (anger, frustration, sadness, etc) but then become amplified towards the game because they don't usually express it in real life/something repressed - such as wanting to vent anger at a friend over something they've done, or being frustrated at work but not able to say anything because you need the money and you can't risk getting fired - even more basic things than this can apply and we wouldn't know it - it just happens in our subconcious. So when those emotions are given an outlet (albeit a somewhat improper outlet), they are all released at once without you consciously realising it. You realise you are flaming, but I would say that you aren't aware of the reason as to why you flame so vehemently.
I think this is the major reason as to why people flame unnecessarily. Of course, there are exceptions and I don't know everyone's circumstances, so I can't say for certain, but I would at least think that what I have said makes sense and applies to a good majority of us when we flame.
The proper adaptive method of coping with negative emotions is to begin by appropriately expressing them consciously and, I would say, honestly. There's obviously more to it, but there's only so much I wish to cover in a (relatively) short post.
The people that flame don't have a mindset: "Hey, let's destroy everyones fun! Yay!"
No, people that flame most of the time don't think they're flaming. They think they are being just, that the fellow league players deserve whatever the flamer is saying. It be because the flamer simply doesn't understand (online) communication, it be that the flamer thinks that everyone else doesn't understand communication, it be that the guy is in a bad mood, it be the flamer feels like the "traffic hero" (the feel when you see someone else doing something dangerous in traffic and call them out, and then when you do the same mistake where you say that you are experienced and know what you are doing. Aka an idiot).
If you want people to stop flaming, you can't say that those flamers should leave league, because people will not feel like it is about them. No one thinks by himself: wow I am such a flamer.
If you want people to stop flame then simply be patient. Listen to what the guy has to say, say something back,if they can't say anything without being rude then ignore themor deal with them in a neutral/positive way for the duration of the game.After, you can just report them after the game so that Riot will make sure that that guy wont hurt again.You were correct up to this part. It's true, most people who flame don't even realize this themselves and just go on tilt, but the best thing to do is just to ignore them and mute them because it's really hard to reason with someone who is tilting. If you keep talking to him you'll both be distracted from the game and chances are, if he's already tilting it can only get worse.
What I usually do is I ask people politely to shut up (like "yo just relax, we got this") but if that doesn't work I mute the person and ask my team to follow my example, just so at least 4 of us won't get distracted from the game.
I think you're putting too much thought into it, Meiyjhe, lol.
Yeah, sometimes I think about things more than that is healthy D: