Official QQ Thread

[quote=FalseoGod][quote=The_Nameless_Bard]I suppose if they're willing to leave over that, they're not worth playing with, but still.[/quote] It's pretty much this though. I see no need to disrespect you. One serious questions though, I have accidently misgendered a transgendered person in the past (I knew he was transgender but my brain decided to tell me to fuck off). In those times do you think it's better to ignore it and force myself into saying things correctly after or should I still apologize in the moment?[/quote]

[quote=The_Nameless_Bard]It varies from person to person. Personally, I'm just fine whether someone corrects themselves in the moment or just moves on and tries not to do it in the future, but some people might want something different. Speaking for myself, I find the whole thing internally distressing enough as is, so I really don't want someone to dwell on it or make the painful moment last any longer than it has to. Also, incredibly common mistake, but transgender is already an adjective and doesn't need "ed" when used to refer to a person.[/quote]

[quote=Vapora Dark][quote=The_Nameless_Bard][quote=FalseoGod]Ever since the inhouses died Mobafire's community also feels like it's dead. Maybe we need less new mods and more interaction qq Spamming on guides for raffles doesn't feel like interaction to me :/[/quote]I feel ya. I was on the discord server for a while, but the stuff some people were posting bothered me enough that I eventually left.[/quote] I just searched my own name there to see what kinda shit they been chattin' about me and Lasoor's mentioned me like 50 times in the past month alone. Someone has a crush EleGiggle[/quote]

[quote=FalseoGod][quote=The_Nameless_Bard]Also, incredibly common mistake, but transgender is already an adjective and doesn't need "ed" when used to refer to a person.[/quote] I've been watching too many Rupaul's Drag Race first seasons lately <.<[/quote]

[quote=Latest Legend]If they're intentionally not calling you what you what you want to be called I'd just ditch them. I only put effort in people I value. I've never read the Discord chat. Doesn't the thing get moderated or something?[/quote]

[quote=The_Nameless_Bard][mention=Vapora Dark]: lol [mention=FalseoGod]: No worries. It's not offensive, just technically incorrect. I do kinda wish RuPaul was willing to stop using words like Tranny though because it's pretty offensive and he's been told such by actual trans people, but he won't and that's unfortunate. [mention=Latest Legend]: I don't think these people are doing it on purpose; I think they missed my brief pinned message and made an incorrect assumption when referring to me upon speaking with me for the first time. I left a [url=http://i.imgur.com/5Q4RzUl.png]polite reminder[/url] in the chat last night, hopefully that will be enough to dissuade the misgendering before it can become a habit. Also, the MF server is moderated, I think I just had a different interpretation of the server's rule stating that bigotry in general wasn't allowed. That's fine, I'm not really upset about that or anything, but it meant that, after the second or third transphobic meme posted over the course of a few days, I just left. I don't want to get a reputation that I'm some obnoxious person who wants to spoil someone else's fun and if anyone besides just me had been offended, I think it wouldn't have been ignored. So I left.[/quote]

[quote=RottedApples]i've been sitting on this one for a bit. waiting for things to get better. but I'm currently in the process of getting seen by a psychiatrist because i have depression and probably anxiety. I'm just waiting for my second appointment at the place now pretty much. Unfortunately where i live there aren't a lot of psychiatrists accepting new patients because i think one of the groups pulled out of the county or something and all the old patients got dumped on everyone else. So I had an intake appointment which was basically me doing a bunch of paperwork. talking with one of the guys for a while while he took notes and then i see the psychiatrist soonish. This also factors into why i haven't been around much lately.[/quote]

[quote=Vapora Dark]:( Hope things get better for you.[/quote]

[quote=Lugignaf][mention=RottedApples] I'm sorry. I know that neither of those are really fun, and especially as a combo they're just that much worse. Here's to hoping you get the help you want/need. Best of wishes dude. EDIT: [mention=The_Nameless_Bard] Sorry about that. I'm not the best moderator and I tend to skip over a lot of things. :S I know personally I antagonize things and push them along sometimes if they're funny but that's definitely not something I should've let stand.[/quote]

[quote=The_Nameless_Bard][quote=Lugignaf]Sorry about that. I'm not the best moderator and I tend to skip over a lot of things. :S I know personally I antagonize things and push them along sometimes if they're funny but that's definitely not something I should've let stand.[/quote]I'm not upset that no one did anything, I just decided it was better to not be involved if I was the only person upset about it. I don't think it occurs to people that memes about how "there's only two genders" or whatever can negatively affect "normal" people, because I think people still believe that it only upsets "special snowflakes" who want to give themselves "stupid" labels they personally don't understand. The problem is that even people who wish to adhere to one of the binary genders do not always fit these strict binary standards due to circumstances out of their own control. In my case, these kind of things just further reinforce the feelings I already have that if I am not "male enough" (despite the fact that this is totally out of my control at the moment), I am not seen as valid by my peers. As a person who simply will not likely have access to things to make me "male enough" at any point in the near future, this is not a helpful mindset to be in on a regular basis. [mention=RottedApples]: I hope you feel better soon[/quote]