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There's a pretty big difference between ego and self-esteem. Ego is mainly the image you fabricate of yourself for others to see, and if there's no one to see that image, or if they don't care about it then your ego is simply shattered. Self esteem is basically how much you value yourself and how confident you are.
Usually people "create" bigger egos in order to compensate for their lack self esteem, that means creating an image that's better than what he/she thinks he/she is. What happens with people like this is that when the image created by their ego is threatened by an insult or something of the sort then they get defensive and aggressive. When the same happens with someone with high self esteem instead of high ego then nothing is really changed because there's no image being destroyed, he/she already accepts what he/she is.
@Nameless
If you have low self esteem the best thing to do is shatter your ego yourself. Don't boast about things you're not confident about. Don't try to pretend to be something you're not. Accept what you are and no matter what other people say you'll either accept it because you already know it is true or completely dismiss it because you know it isn't. Try to remember things that you accomplished that make you proud of yourself in order to build your self-esteem as well.
For example, my father and my grandfathers are bald, so I know I'll be bald as well. I can either try to cover it up and I'll feel insulted if someone mentions it or I can accept it and shave my head.
Usually people "create" bigger egos in order to compensate for their lack self esteem, that means creating an image that's better than what he/she thinks he/she is. What happens with people like this is that when the image created by their ego is threatened by an insult or something of the sort then they get defensive and aggressive. When the same happens with someone with high self esteem instead of high ego then nothing is really changed because there's no image being destroyed, he/she already accepts what he/she is.
@Nameless
If you have low self esteem the best thing to do is shatter your ego yourself. Don't boast about things you're not confident about. Don't try to pretend to be something you're not. Accept what you are and no matter what other people say you'll either accept it because you already know it is true or completely dismiss it because you know it isn't. Try to remember things that you accomplished that make you proud of yourself in order to build your self-esteem as well.
For example, my father and my grandfathers are bald, so I know I'll be bald as well. I can either try to cover it up and I'll feel insulted if someone mentions it or I can accept it and shave my head.
I'm not really certain it's a self esteem issue so much as a matter of overcoming emotional hurdles experienced earlier in life :P
I think Nameless knows she's a cool person ^_^
I think Nameless knows she's a cool person ^_^
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@Canoas There are also people who effectively have negative elos, those people don't tend to get over their issues with self-worth as easily as someone who compensates for their shortcomings by hiding them under bravado (effectively). People whose personal representations of themselves are actually somewhat worse than the reality. I tend to be one of those people. I don't really think I'm good at anything...and I certainly don't boast about it.
@Duff I'm glad you think I'm cool...at least one of us does xD
@Duff I'm glad you think I'm cool...at least one of us does xD
Ohhh pshaw you know yer cool :P
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that's really what self esteem is.
Really? the worst I've seen is about 900. Those guys must suck = /
You just have low self esteem and an ego to match it then. That's better than having a bigger ego though.
Also, you should try speaking with a psychologist. It might be depression and it can be quiet a serious issue. Obviously I'm no doctor but you should research a bit on that subject.
that's really what self esteem is.
The_Nameless_Bard wrote:
@Canoas There are also people who effectively have negative elos,
Really? the worst I've seen is about 900. Those guys must suck = /
You just have low self esteem and an ego to match it then. That's better than having a bigger ego though.
Also, you should try speaking with a psychologist. It might be depression and it can be quiet a serious issue. Obviously I'm no doctor but you should research a bit on that subject.
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